Thank you for your post Lindsay I found it very comforting. This can extend into your work routine if you’re used to pulling home office shifts and need quiet time to be productive. My in laws said they didn’t want to create stress in my marriage and they did. I walked him a lot and he was still crazy all the time! I’ve found the best way to combat feelings of doubt about a new dog is to do something you KNOW your new dog is good at, that you love. I forgot to mention shes about 6 months old. the pet will have a stigma attached to it, because it was returned. The initial excitement wears off after a few days and you’re like … what the hell have I done? I would imagine that a lioness in the wild would just leave her cubs in the den when she needs to go out to catch food for the family; the cubs, when not protected by mom, might get killed by the snake. As a matter of fact, Barbara had to sign a contract that stated that she would return Wally (his former name was Pablo) to the rescue/contact them for assistance if she could no longer care for him – see below! My happy-go-lucky fur soulmate was angry with me and became withdrawn – I felt so horrible. Now this little girl is in a very loving home and is just as happy as can be. My sweet little Dolly is just not getting the bell ringing/puppy training/no biting thing. A friend expressed interest, but she has two dogs so we’re gonna do a meet and greet. I don’t hold any resentment toward those people, but I hope and pray that the next time they might think about bringing a dog home, that they prepare themselves and commit to it 100%. You need to make the time. ( it is like being tackled by a football player full on) I know that if I persist I will make him a good dog, it is mostly puppy acts I hope. Thank you – today I took Shian and Tofi to lake, nature reserve, dog beach and then to ocean later tonite – and yet I never feel like I am doing enough – go figure! To see a picture – hit the website link below. I'm also scared if I stay home all day rather than go to work it will almost make me feel worse as I won't have time to be sick as the puppy will need attention. I keep thinking what have I done. This helps distribute the natural oils from the coat and stimulates blood supply to the skin, which promotes oil production. That Mutt is a participant in affiliate advertising with Amazon, Chewy and Darwin’s. The exocrinefunction involves the secretion of inactive digestive enzymes and bicarbonate into the intestine where they become activated to help break down ingested foodstuffs. My in laws believe dogs should just be in their crate until they are older however I don’t and really struggling my partner isn’t that invested in this one as he was with the first. We are not perfect. BUT…everyday gets better and he has changed our hearts in so many ways. Thanks for helping me feel more normal too! A dog with severe difficulty breathing may have a tongue that looks purple/blue instead of pink, showing that they are not getting enough oxygen. I'm not expecting this trend to continue everyday (I'm already bracing myself for Monday morning after we hang out with her all weekend long) but it was really good to see improvement and she was about 80% more quiet when I was taking a shower today than in the past. After he was gone, we were looking at other adult dogs (or at least juveniles) until one of the local shelters had the litter of puppies available. It’s nothing to do with Remy, really, it’s about having a second dog in general right now. I do think what you’re feeling is normal. A bruise, or contusion, appears on the skin due to trauma. It does get easier. This is not a good situation for you or your family, and it’s not a good situation for the dog either. He was also very naughty in the evenings when he was actually tired but appeared like he’d had no exercise. Every time I foster I love the dog/cat but I’m so glad to see them get adopted! Nikki McDonald is one of the most recent dog owners to experience a terrifying ordeal with her large dog … I followed Ian Dunbar’s book and my little big guy is turning out to be a decent student despite my far from perfect execution on Dunbar’s methods. Link to see Tofi and Shian – see last comment – http://smartdogco.com/assets/img/shian-tofi.jpg. Likewise, your pup will be just fine if you decide it’s best to re-home to a better situation. Trying not to make my usual mistakes with dogs. He was a very good puppy but it’s just the stress of normal puppy training + lack of sleep + loss of freedom + trying to manage my senior dog’s health issues & some resource guarding. Even I have bought a puppy which is like 8 weeks old and I m having puppy blues but I think it will get better I just wanted to hear that yes it will get better….. I honestly wanted to give him back to the breeder because I felt it was taking such a toll on my mental health. Am I doing everything wrong with my puppy? After raising a weimaraner, I will not judge someone who decides they can’t keep their puppy or dog because of the stress it causes. I ended up getting a puppy from a breeder, but initially I was trying to work something out with a rescue. If you think your dog might have a fever, contact your vet right away to set up an appointment for an examination and to ensure that your dog receives the … Have any of you experienced “puppy blues”? It may feel like you don’t have time, but there are even online therapists available. When he would get so hyper-excited out running and playing in the yard that he would bodyslam me, and leap at my arms to the point where I had bruises. I think they realized they had gotten in over their heads and were (mostly) thankful that someone stepped in before they got in any real trouble. Mitral stenosis is a valvular heart disease characterized by the narrowing of the orifice of the mitral valve of the heart. Use a specialized shampoo. But now he’s sleeping between my knees. For $100 which I offered (hundreds less than they were asking). He is a 10-year-old Labradoodle and I bought him because he was the last one left in the pet shop after being there for 8 weeks. I had just forgotten how much time it takes to raise a pup. You will get there! I know I am deeply depressed since my mother died recently after I saw her every day and cared for her in all ways I could for several years. I found this post as i was searching for similar stories to mine. It took me a year to bond with Henri. I miss him still. All my friends say I’m doing a great job but I worry and wonder. I hope this does not come off like a lecture, because I know it is hard to want to take time to do things like therapy or see a doctor, but someone who specializes in Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) could really help you. You can minimize puppy destruction by offering puppy-specific chews and toys. The new kind of idea that pets are as demanding as children, i feel really contributed to my puppy blues. If things truly don’t work out with your new pup, they will be OK if you decide to return or re-home them, so don’t stress yourself out about that option too much. Perhaps I thought cuddling a puppy would be comforting.I’d helped my daughter with the litter of 7 puppies since they were born so I was emotionally invested. We instantly got him off and he drew blood. Sometimes it really is YOU. I am stressed out everyday and resent the dog now. 🙁 I hate I am feeling this. I’ve had a puppy before, but time tints experiences rose gold. It will get better! See my post on Returning a rescue or shelter dog for some support. Thanks in advance. I just hope this gets better I am literally crying as I write this as I am so stressed out by her. I am forever grateful they made that choice, as hard as it must have been. It’s been hard to express this to folk, especially because he’s a cute cuddly pup. He’s not a bad puppy, we do really with house training most of the time, he’s a good sleeper from 1030-6 but the biting really gets to me. He’s overall a good puppy, sweet and smart, I just need to remind myself that this is a phase. Very insightful and honest. I was caught off guard and I was not ready for any animals. But then I said okay and we called his dad and said yes to the dog. On one condition I pay for everything which I was fine with because it was my dog. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. Blue Buffalo is a well-known brand of dog food that was founded in Wilton, CT in 2002. It’s almost the time it takes to find someone that is taking patients and within your insurance that’s the most daunting. I'm not kidding lol. I really enjoy this site as I am learning a lot and realize I am not alone in this challenge. I think it’s mostly the feeling of being overwhelmed and exhausted. It gets easier. I can’t wait for our first puppy meeting to share your blog with the other new puppy parents from this litter. And your husband should be able to take on some responsibility with the dog. An unnatural twisting motion can happen when the foot is planted awkwardly, when the ground is uneven, or when an unusual amount of force is applied to the joint. First week is rough, but by the end of one month things have settled into a rhythm. He and US are still a work in progress. Then the two of you need to decide how you’re going to fairly split up puppy duties, how to get support from others if needed (like for training, walking, puppy sitter) and discuss if you even want to keep the puppy. The ankle joint, which connects the foot with the lower leg, is injured often. I ended up taking him back pretty quickly because I thought I just couldn't handle it. I’m 63 now. We have really worked on making the crate a safe space. Your job and your dog aren't going to stop that. Haha! i am sure that you will never regret getting Remy. unlike other people that go to rescues and shelters, get a cute puppy, then dont realize the cost, time and turn the dog/cat back knowing full well, that the pet could be put down. Hang in there, Lindsay! That sounds terrible. Went to sleep at 8pm and woke at 5am. Not even had him for two weeks yet - this gorgeous bundle of golden retriever - and I'm overwhelmed! My thought is: Is it OK that we just do what the wild dog mom does in the wild in raising her puppies? And there is absolutely no job out there that should be giving you any shit for taking care of your health. On the plus side, my puppy is a a year and a half now and things are sooo much easier now! This is why your readers stick with you Lindsay. she loves our me time together. I’m bewildered at how emotionally and physically drained I feel. You are so transparent & real that it somehow gives us permission to be, too. We currently have 2 puggles 11 and 5, the senior is PO’d and the younger loves having a play buddy. Sure he doesn’t always come when he’s called. I was able to take care of her (feed/play/walk) with minimal nausea and no vomiting. I am so glad I came across this blog, it has given me hope at a time when I’ve never felt quite so low. If you’re second guessing yourself about your new dog …, If you’ve truly made a mistake and regret getting a dog …. I’m glad you’ve never regretted responsibility. Soon Zander grew to be 16+ lbs (again “surprise”) and is a bit of a bully to Andy. It can be truly exhausting. 🙂, Oh thank God! We had him for over 13 years & then had to put him down. I regretted getting him bitterly when I first got him. So glad you understand. So I was up with him at 5am, he did well for his first night. I also thought it would be a link to my daughter who is married but is not wanting to have any children. The boys bonded quickly, with Andy showing Zander the ropes … indoors Andy would submit but outside he would put Zander in his place. I’m a single parent so I dont have a partner to be with her during the day. I’m so sorry. I am wondering whether our human dog owners are more stressed than the wild dog moms; if yes, why? Have an honest discussion with your family or roommate. I am terrified I'm going to traumatize this puppy by leaving her to work during the day (husband visits her at mid-day) and terrified that I'll never be able to provide her with everything she needs. I’ve only had regret when I’m overwhelmed and I remind myself that this is just a temporary period and I’ll make it through. With a few exceptions, most responsible breeders will almost always take a puppy back if it’s not working out. I helped re-home one of my dog Loki’s sisters this past summer. My last dog was a sweet chocolate lab that I adopted when he was 3, he was so easy and a perfect companion for me that I thought I could handle this but I’m not sure most days. The dog on the left has a purple/blue tongue (abnormal from not getting enough oxygen), and the dog on the right has a pink tongue (normal). Anxiety = exposure to high levels of hormones that prolonged exposure is BAD. I've only seen one other post covering the severity of the puppy blues I am experiencing this right now but I apologize if this is a tired topic. It sounds difficult but all your hard work will pay off. Sorry for the long rant just very upset with my decision. Nice to know others are in the same boat at times. The female is very independent and pleasant natured so they make an interesting and challenging combo of pups. Night before last was a living hell….last night she was perfect. I put an ad in the local Pennysaver, a couple with two boys and a farm called–we talked and they came to get her. Or maybe you were looking for a daily walking partner to accompany you on your weight loss journey. I’ve had my new puppy (a staffie/pointer mix as best I can tell, and cute as a button) for about two months now and while he’s settled down beautifully, the first few weeks were a nightmare. It was very sad and hard to return her. What kind of puppy do you have? Is like thinking babies will be all fun and not a 24/7 responsibility. They told me I had to decide if I wanted the dog in two hours because they were going to reserve the dog to go and buy it. For the past few months I have been trying to convince my dad (the only one in my family that did not want a dog and definitely not a puppy ) so that I could have a dog to run with, and he finally said yes! In high kill shelters, this is truly a problem because once they’re full, their staff is going to euthanize the dogs (same goes for cats) in order to make room for more. I love him more than any other dog I have ever owned. I like my puppy, maybe even love him, and my feelings of anxiety have all but gone. There are numerous dog skin problems you're likely to … She is only 3 1/2 months and I know she is just a baby. I had spent months and months researching the exact breed of dog and breeder. just look at that face, those eyes. Enter my desire for another dog – was it my desire for him to have a fur-sister – or more likely my desire to have a young healthy dog just in case Shian’s disease took him over the bridge. I’ve had this feeling many times since I got my puppy, Colby. I’m very thankful it worked out so well for us, I definitely was getting nervous. Luckily after that dip, things rapidly improved. He’s doing incredibly well (despite me having severe puppy blues/anxiety) and is coming on in literal leaps and bounds. Tofi has learned to help Shian find his ball – Shian has PRA and is slowly loosing his sight – Tofi is protective of Shian at the dog park. I cried when that happened. It’s good to know I’m not the only one that feels this way from time to time. We had our chocolate Lab, Murphy, for ten years before age-related issues and CDM took him over the Bridge. Keep on writing!! Thank you for much for acknowledging that sometimes, the happy-go-lucky, life is rainbows and flowers when you have a puppy is not everyone’s experience. I am reading this with an 11 week old MN. If I wanted to train the dog a certain way or didn’t want to sleep with the dog I was a horrible person. Any decrease in area below 2 cm 2 causes mitral stenosis. It definitely helps when you can start taking them places. It’s important to factor those costs into your budget, whether that’s in form of a puppy savings account for medical expenses or dog insurance. He bit my nephews leg. 🙁. Thank you for sharing your story. If I had brought him back to the shelter I would have made one of the biggest mistakes of my life. (New puppy blues) (17 Posts) Add message | Report. I’m more anxious than satisfied. Maybe he’s aggressive to your other dog or to your kids. My husband didn’t want her but lets me live my life the way I want. For anyone having puppy blues…Hang in there. He is jealous but learning, I think competition in a litter of 11 was huge. Training is helping and he excels at what he learns but never uses it when out of class with me. My husband has always been there for me but this experience makes me reflect on that SO MUCH more. Nothing beats a reliable support system for those times when you need a helping hand with your puppy or dog! Clever me. I’m where you were and wondered if you did rehome – and did you regret it? So sorry to hear your puppy is causing so much stress. He is intelligent, obedient and loving. He is needy and possessive and something we will work out. My life has changed drastically, and I knew it would. Canine cognitive dysfunction (CCD) syndrome is a condition related to the aging of a dog's brain, which ultimately leads to changes in awareness, deficits in learning and memory, and decreased responsiveness to stimuli. Yep, that’s actually a thing, pets do get jealous! Sometimes it’s just the wrong match. What kept me going was reading posts just like this…knowing I wasn’t alone…and in most cases there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I’m only a little over two months in, and it’s much easier now. Fast forward to bringing my little guy home and the first 3 - 4 weeks having him and I was an absolute wreck. She’s a couple of months now and feel like I am doing everything wrong. in fact, i wish i had more. I definitely won’t be giving up on Colby but to be honest I don’t think I could ever have another puppy. Can’t wait! In a recent survey, people with severe depression felt more relaxed, less lonely, and had less pain after short visits with a therapy dog. Up until then it seemed just work w/no pay back & I had no experience with dogs. I am so sleep deprived I was looking forward to going to work this Monday morning. We just celebrated Koda’s (labradoodle that was more lab than doodle)one year birthday yesterday which was also the deadline of his “probationary” period. That strikes me as a good idea, although I ended up following a different path. Training two at once is ridiculous but they have learned to take turns in our lessons. There were days I didn’t think we’d make it. You’re not alone. I don’t know what to do anymore. He also developed a bit of dog aggression from another dog at the dog park, which we have now learned how to control. I got a puppy years ago, who was just impossible for me to deal with, she had worms and would walk a mile with me then poop in the kitchen. He just looks at me with sadness and a questioning look in his eyes of, “Why did you do this to us?” He will not allow her into his kennel and it is cold but puts up with most of her annoying puppy ways. Take sick days, talk to your supervisor. Reviewed and updated for accuracy on October 28, 2019 by Dr. Hanie Elfenbein, DVM, PhD . Mine was pretty good at around 4 months but I thought it would happen sooner. However, it’s highly unlikely that your puppy won’t get a hold of at least a few of your belongings. Itching may be general or confined to one area. I think the wild dog mom just does what she needs to do. He was 7 mos. If you don’t have family or friends to help you out with your puppy, you might get burnt out! I also want to add that I felt extra guilty because for the first month I didn’t even really like my puppy. When you have your moments of doubt, remember why you wanted to bring a dog into your life in the first place. you thought this thru and you knew exactly what you wanted. I really don’t know what to do. Does she need to go out now vs. when I usually get her at 5:45? Tofi respects Shian’s hunting prowess and learns from him how to find lizards in the palm trees of Florida. I've read that it will get better but am quite honestly not sure how long my body will be able to take this especially if I cannot keep food down. It is almost always caused by rheumatic valvular heart disease.Normally, mitral valve is about 5 cm 2 during diastole. To make matters worse my puppy was actually pretty good and I felt like I couldn’t really talk to anyone because I am a vet and it would look silly. My mum is warming to him which is nice. Maybe my decision was ‘childish’ and selfish. Even all the nieces and nephews. I love all four of my rescues so so much though and wouldn’t trade them for anything ! We went to see them, spent some time with the little brindle boy, and brought an eight week old puppy home. So, after having him for six months and second guessing myself, we bonded and I am thrilled to have him now. Whether you decide to re-home or keep the pup, best of luck and don’t be too hard on yourself. Thank you. I did the bulk of the puppy work with my girl because my husband hadn’t been keen on a dog and part of the deal was that I would do the heavy lifting. That’s when the craziness escalates! Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, GSDxLabxGR (7 mos), Toller (3yrs) & 2 cats (9yrs). In November I purchased two collie pups from the USA. I’m feeling this way now. He bit me viciously, he chewed the couch, he wasn’t house trained, he woke me up at odd hours for no reason (on top of potty training). Usually any “doubts” are just growing pains you can work through. We will get there eventually. He has split my skin on my arm from protecting my nephew. My friend knew a breader that had a returned blue merle pitbull puppy and he wanted to get rid of it because he was moving. But thinking for him, future wise, I dong know what is best for him. He was 6 months old when we adopted him, he has bad seperation anxiety from being left behind in a backyard when his first family moved away. I think she's learning, slowly but surely! Schnauzer at my feet, it was impulsive but I have been considering a puppy for 2 years. Learn 3 basic steps to identify and treat your dog’s skin and food allergies. It’s highly advisable that all human family members are on the same page as far as bringing a puppy home. Haha! I was about to return Tofi to the farm but asked her if she would be willing to make changes – and by some miracle in 30-60 days – Tofi learned to respect Shian’s space (that is – his ball) and to allow Shian to be petted and respect his sleeping space – and to stop playing rough with him. Puppy blues do often get better, but you don't have to live your life handling and feeling stress like this, especially if it's affecting you to the point of not being able to keep food down. Soon Zander will be ; he loves babies, children, other dogs and most people, but still picks on Andy sometimes. It can be so hard to make that decision and say, “Hey, I have this dog. Everywhere we go folk stop me and wanna play, take pics and love up on him. Our personalities don’t match, hes difficult to train and as much as I hate to admit it I don’t have as much patience as I thought I would. 😉 I also appreciate my sometimes-cranky adult cat after fostering, haha. This truly made me realize that I am not a pet person at all. Sending you a hug, because the first few weeks with a puppy can be really, really hard. I got them at 5 months basically breeder pups with no life skills or people skills. Start for short periods of time and gradually increase them. I’ve always been smugly proud of the fact that Hiccup doesn’t bark. The sleep deprivation, the constant need to monitor. I live in an apartment so it is extremely difficult to crate train him as he has a very high pitched cry and I am afraid the neighbors will eventually complain to my landlord (whom I have yet to notify). Enough but I can finally start eating a good boy is married but is not.! 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